I’ve been wondering this and didn’t really know who to ask for advice from, but realized this is a group of people who might have some wisdom for me.
I’m a little late into the comic book game, and didn’t really get into all this until I was mid-twenties, so not a little kid. There used to be three shops around me, and when I went to the first one on my own, without brothers or my guy friends, the owner was super rude. When I asked for recommendations (I liked Blackest Night, and knew I liked Nightwing, but at the time didn’t know how or where to begin reading anything else) he told me that a girl like me “shouldn’t bother your little head trying to deal with comics, just wait until the movies come out”, since I was “obviously only reading comics because you think the superhero actors are cute” before turning back to his little gang of snickering jerks sitting next to the counter smearing Cheeto dust on the back issue boxes.
After that, I didn’t go back, and in the past two years have heard from some other girls they were treated the same way… and worse (one girl went in one day looking for PowerGirl back issues because she was working on a cosplay and he told her she had “perfect shape” for PowerGirl, but he didn’t use the word shape, if you understand my meaning.) I have been going to the other two shops in town… neither of which will be reopening after Covid.
So now my choices are to either not support a shop at all or support a shop where myself and other women have been made to feel like we don’t belong in the comic community. So what do y’all suggest? Do I suck it up for industry sake and just hope to avoid him? Or do I just give up, order online, and hope something nearby opens up soonish?