I find this whole discussion fascinating, and love seeing the different points of view.
During episode 9, I felt sad for Kite-Man because (as he and many others have mentioned) he deserved better. It was my desire that the incident would help her come out of her denial and realize that marrying Kite-Man was wrong. Not just for her, but for him because she did not love him the way a spouse should. Unfortunately, this didn’t happen and she let her (understandable) fear that Harley wouldn’t stick to their relationship keep her from breaking things off with Kite-Man. Thus, we were forced to watch as the adorable cinnamon roll that is Kite-Man came in completely oblivious and carried Ivy away.
Marriage is a big deal to me (I understand that’s not the case for everyone, but it is for me). It’s a public commitment to be loyal to another person. A promise that through all the ups and downs you will be there for each other. And it’s not something that’s all rainbow kisses and unicorn stickers. It can be hard, and you have to work at it. That’s one reason I was not as upset over what happened at the bachelorette party because it was better for Ivy to face things now then after she’s married.
Harley and Ivy are one of my OTP’s, but if Ivy had married Kite-Man and then hooked up with Harley I would have been crushed (villains or not). Please don’t misunderstand, I still think it is wrong to cheat on someone you are in a committed relationship with, but you didn’t swear that person would be “the one”, your “forever girl/man/person.”
I was soooo happy when Kite-Man finally called it off! He wanted a life-long commitment, he wanted someone who was willing to choose him over all others over and over, but that wasn’t going to be Ivy. So while my heart hurts for him, I’m overjoyed that he came to his senses and called it off, that Ivy finally faced that she loved Harley more than any other person on the planet, and that because of this harley and Ivy could begin a relationship together.